So, I’m at a huge sidewalk art fair in downtown Madison, Wisconsin…many blocks long, booths down both sides of wide, closed streets circling the capitol building. I’m walking and walking, looking at art and constantly dodging people.

Suddenly I realize everyone, thousands and thousands, are all moving in the same direction, like a river or wind, or like blood in an artery. And their direction is not mine!

My first thought was, “Why does this always happen to me? Why am I constantly going against the grain? Who writes these rules anyway? And why don’t they tell me?”

But then my curiousity takes over. Now I’m asking, “How do they know?” There were no signs, no directional signals. So how does everyone know to move one way or the other?

It dawned on me that there must be some innate tendency within us to do what others are doing, to join and flow, to merge…like raindrops falling into a stream. But raindrops falling into a stream are no longer raindrops. They cease to exist as an individual.

Thinking of it that way helps understand why people will join 50 cars at a drive-through to get a chicken sandwich, or line up 10 deep at a red light when the next lane is empty. I’ve heard it said jokingly that if some people see a line, they will join it. I’m wondering now if that’s really a joke.

But I still have to wonder, “How’d I miss the memo?”

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